Marriage Counseling: 5 Steps to Success
At GUTS OC, we provide marriage counseling to help couples work through and resolve marital conflict effectively and quickly.
Before marriage counseling, the couple has to both understand and be on the same page with their goals and how they will move forward as a team.
At GUTS OC, here are our 5 steps to success for marriage counseling:
Step #1: What is the goal?
The first step is to develop a specific marriage counseling plan for resolving conflict and moving towards a healthy happy marriage. This starts with setting a goal. What is the desired result of marriage counseling? Once the couple is on the same page, then they can move to step two.
Step #2: Assessment
We look at the couple both individually and as a unit. Because a relationship involves two people, the dynamic is complex. We try to figure out what the potential barriers are that may get in the way of progress. For example, past trauma or addiction are vulnerable areas that may hinder advancement.
We first work with each individual and provide them with the tools and skills to work on these vulnerable areas so the individual is able to move past them with adaptive behaviors, insight and self-awareness.
Then, we work with the couple to assess what dynamics as a couple hinder their goals. An example may be that one of the individuals in the relationship has trouble managing his/her anger, while the other avoids conflict. We provide therapeutic responses with specific steps to help overcome and move through these vulnerable areas so progress can be made.
Step #3: Troubleshooting
Every couple has certain techniques and tools that work and don’t work for them. In every marriage, there are certain ways of communicating or solving problems that are very effective. And then there are certain techniques that the couple has tried again, over and over, that just don’t work. We partner with the couple to make sure we do not duplicate ineffective techniques, and double-down on techniques that do work to increase communication and promote progress.
Step #4: Communication & Conflict
The biggest determinant of if a couple will be successful is not if they fight, but how they fight. We assess how the couple communicates in conflict to pinpoint areas where they fall to maladaptive behaviors that do not suit their goals or their relationship. We provide tools, skills and awareness for the couple to move past these pain points and towards their goals.
Step #5 Micro Current Neurofeedback
We also use micro current neurofeedback during sessions. Similar to rebooting a computer, neurofeedback causes brief stimulation to the nervous system, resulting in a temporary fluctuation in brainwaves. This allows the brain to “reset” itself. The individual’s brain is now “wired” in a way that allows it to develop new neural pathways, create new habits, change behaviors and become more resilient and grounded.
This painless and non-invasive technique allows us to show couples the areas where they are having the most difficulty and balance the brain (for calmness) during highly conflictual discussions.
We incorporate science with education and emotion to resolve problems with a deeper, more effective approach that focuses on teamwork. If you and your partner are ready to take this step together, contact us to share more about the goals you hope to achieve as a couple: https://www.gutsoc.com/start-here.
About GUTS OC:
We combine mental health services and state-of-the-art technology to help our patients obtain long-term results faster. Our specialties include therapy, micro current neurofeedback and life coaching. Our evidence-based approach has helped thousands of individuals, couples and families who have sought our help over the past 22 years. Our trained specialists are committed to educating & empowering our patients with the skills and mindset to live successful, happy lives.
GUTS OC is based in Newport Beach, CA but provides services to all of Orange County through in-person sessions and/or virtual therapy sessions via phone, chat or video.